Contraception, is it really helping us to improve family planning?

Gone are the days when we usually seek approval from our parents for every endeavor that we will be taking. Probably brought by the accepted idea of independence and intelligence. Admittedly, I still do remember to ask permissions from my mom or dad whenever I'll be buying toys, for the simple reason that they have the money, right? As for now, I have my own resources and ways in which I can actually achieve my wants and needs even without their approval. I even don't seek their advise anymore for simple decisions such as purchasing medicines, cellphones and anything else such as contraceptives.

I believe it was during the opening of the millennium where we have started to accept openly the idea of family planning thru scientific approach. Nowadays, getting paraphernalia such as condoms are so marketable. You can even see a daytime advertisement on t.v. with regards to it. It even promotes the "in" thing among teens, that's why it comes in various flavors and textures. Just recently, this is probably another issue being raised amidst rice shortage and toxic waste contamination of waters in our country. Practical members of the society clamors for realism and not hypocrisy. They are suggesting for the Roman Catholic Church to stop snubbing the proposal of the Solon towards population control. During these times when TV series, such as the likes of"Desperate Wives", ""Gossip Girl" plus many more, are promoting pre-marital sex is just like an ordinary event similar as to buying pandesal every morning for breakfast. Then I wonder, is this really the future we have hoped for? Is this the life we would like to teach our children, to sexually affirm their feelings in order to secure their flimsy and temperamental relationships? There's nothing wrong with family planning, but the ways on how we are promoting it is definitely disturbing. I can bet that even a five year old boy can buy a condom with no question asked. How many can actually attest that whenever you purchase condoms, that you'll be asked regarding your age? Whatever they are promoting whether it may be a condom, IUD, pills, injectibles or whatsoever the real problem of the country are not being solved by contraception. Population should not be a disadvantage, rather the provision of sufficient opportunities, rights such as education, impedes progress. In a corporate setting, we are all taught that humans are the most vital element of it, therefore it could apply similarly to any country's governance. Number against quality that is the issue here. Whether to have 2 or 12 children, without our capacity to provide even a single one's need would definitely make this country worse even before. We need to answer the problems directly and that is graft and corruption that continually decays our government.

People don't be misled by sensational propaganda, we have to use our brains! We simply have to follow the rules, it may be vague to you but let me just tell you there's a single prescription to all international maladies, be kind and learn it from the Bible. I am not a saint, but I can tell you that it was made without prejudice to race, to environment, to culture, to gender, and it was simply believable. You may not like your pastors or priests, but judge your faith and not with theirs.

Now tell me, is contraception really the doze that we need? Can family planning be really attained by it? I say, "No!"

Mama is in States

I still remember that my mom packs my snacks for school. She even initially made me convince that going to school will be as easy as playing toys. I remember she taught how to simply write my name few days before the start of my classes in kinder (yup I did not go to nursery, where it is now required). i may not have the best packed snacks but I always have my best toys with me during P.E. I was really sickly then so I can't really compete physically to my classmates so instead I have my toys brought to school by my tito. Yes, I had a guardian until I reached Grade 1. From those regular days, I always had expected my mom to give me something every time she had been to work. Yes, I really expected her and actually even from my dad. My brothers told me that I was their favorite and though as much I don't want to admit it to them, but to myself I know they were right but I have to defer since I have to protect myself from those intrigues or whenever my brothers and sister teased me for being such a spoiled kid. One event was really memorable, it was my birthday, I was turning 8 then, I was actually sick and I was confined in my room (my room is actually with my parents until I reached college). All I have asked her is big teddy bear, so huge that it was half of my size. Well she bought me that one, seemed easy? Well, every birthdays that I had, timely that there were strong storms and my mom doesn't have a car where she came from Manila and still had to be home in Bulacan. Actually there were really a lot of favors i have asked from my mom, sometimes I don't really have to ask for them, she has this sheer instinct of knowing things that I like though at times I was so really hesitant to them from her. Probably she know me so much as I stayed beside her in bed until I graduated from college. Funny to realize that among her children who have studied in Manila, it was only me whom she made it a point to actually live in Manila, not even to my sister. She really watched me grow and was even so scared for every choices I have been engaging in since college when I had actually realized that I have to be independent. It was actually hard for her, I know that and I was not even sensitive about it. maybe just this year, when I started talking to my mom and have been more open with her about the things I want to do. One weekend, when I visited her in our province and told her the reason why I seldom go there, I was able to confide some things which i believed made her realize that I am indeed a grown-up. I simply told her that I'm not getting any younger and I need a space for myself because I simply have to prepare myself emotionally, financially, psychologically and every aspect of my life that I simply have to establish myself more just like her and dad. As much as I wanted to keep them beside me always but I have to accept the fact that each member of my family has his/her own life that needs to be set free. from that day on, I was entrusted by mom to actually be in-charge now of myself. Well, I'm proud to say that she also did the same thing. She went to USA last July 5, I was the only person accompanying her up to the immigration. I felt partly sad but I know she'll be getting more exciting activities there than in here. The last time I talked to her, she was really so energetic and felt she was young again. Of course she misses us but she also has some relatives there to help her out too. Besides, I get to talk to her in daily basis. One thing I have her convinced, to do things she never did while she was taking care of us. She was indeed practical, now she plays casino with my tita very often. I know by time she can be more comfortable there. There are also less stress as she's one particular person who likes to think most of the times. She's a really good planner, evident to what we are now. I love my mom and this is why I am writing this, I want to tell the world that she's one best woman I can ever have in my life.

My doggy, Jaja

Probably she, is one girl I could really stand for whatever happens aside from my mom and sister. She's loud and my dad can really easily get irritated every time she barks at someone, but as I usually & candidly tell him "Pa, she's a dog she really barks". Well, I really have intended to start with my blog about my dog because I believe that this is really personal and definitely not too personal.

Any dog lover would agree that it is not really complicated to raise a dog compared to a rel child but I guess it's a good start for a bachelor like me. I learned how to be responsible and be able to attend to her simple needs such as her fave shampoo, treats or by just simply walking her outside our gate. (I can't really stroll around our subdivision 'coz there are really a lot of stray dogs and which they could just attack on her) Yes, I am very much protective about her. I don't even plan to have other dogs breed on her, I believe that engaging her to studs might just ruin her great physique. Jaja is neither fat nor thin, she has a medium built and a lot of people could say that she seemed to be very fit and sculpted for a labrador. Well, I guess she gets involved to my diet as well as I favor more on fish, vegetable, fruits and I really stay away from sweets. I'm really health conscious, especially my parents both have distinct illnesses which if I won't be taking care of myself thru good diet, I can inevitably acquire as well.

My mom told me that my dog is really spoiled because I love buying her stuffs like toys, collars, food, toiletries (yup she has one set of them). Most of all she's the only dog allowed to roam inside our home. I always see to it that she gets her regular vet check-up. I don't have a certificate for she was a gift and in the Philippines, this is not really normal (a general practice). However when inflation is now attacking all consumers, I can't help to wonder that maybe it's about time for us to somehow decreases the taxes of those dog owners or pet lovers. After all, we consider them as family members and will forever be dependent on us right? It is indeed costly to provide any pets plus to consider that there are laws requiring that their welfare be taken care of. I just hope this will be strictly implemented but I guess it won't really be just easy.

In one of our provincial houses in Bulacan, my dad keeps his huge dog named Brownie. He's really huge and was an efficient guard dog but as time pass by and as all of us are unable to regularly check the house, an intruder just broke in to our lot and unfortunately our dog was poisoned. yes, we have a suspect and though the only thing we could claim against them are things taken from the house, but as for the Brownie??? I hope justice will be served and I hope though as far as I know that dogs don't have souls, I wanted to think that he's with the angels.

I hope things will improve especially now when all concerns about environment and animals have started to surface. I hope I can sustain my ability to provide everything for Jaja. She makes me sane after a week loads of work and stress. I guess her noisy barks breaks through my problems. She may not be aware but I thank God for having her.